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This the verbal onslaught of maybe someone’s angry and they just come out exploding with words that are just incredibly workful, or they have this passive aggressive nature where
That’s the 1 that scares me.
Okay. So comment. Comment on that because that’s also a form of emotional issues.
Here’s what I say y’all is I’ve gotten as I’ve turned 60 and I’m older now.
I’m older therapist I just do I make up stuff. And this is the 1 I made up.
You know what, bro? I’m not worried about your motive because I don’t know if I know.
Are you trying to do all this. But your modus operandi, your method of operating well, I got angry.
The Bible says it’s a command and imperative. Be angry, but don’t sin. I’m not gonna fight him on.
Well, I wasn’t trying I go I get it. And maybe what you don’t work out, you act out.
We know the anger of man doesn’t bring about the righteousness of God.
So instead of wrestling with him around on his, it is motive to be angry and say, will you read the room and know your audience?
Your wife feels scared and unsafe when you do this. And I no longer care about your motive.
So with that, if a woman, again, in many cases, say, do you feel safe. Do you feel threatened?
No. I don’t feel safe. I do feel threatened when he just raises his voice.
And I’m a say 1 more other little caveat.
I work with people with some great compassion on my part, meaning this.
I love it when I see people raise their voice, yell, maybe cuss in a session or something else, and, and they’re getting big, as I call it.
And I look, and I go, I don’t think you’re aware how big you are.
That’s why I love having a their in the room to go, may I give you feedback of how, and I’m a dude?
Let me tell you how I’m experiencing you, and sometimes the woman gotten really loud and big.
And I say, ma’am, are you would you let me tell you how I experience you? Mhmm.
And that’s data versus 2 people by themselves, but he may not think.
Some people would, but he may not think he’s getting all big and angry. He may not see it.
Plus anger tends to blind the mind so much that that I’ll be more of that limbic brain that I cognitively don’t even think I’m raging right now, and I am.
And what about the passive aggressive stuff?
Well, I think the passive aggressive, matter of fact, Joe, I’m confident even think I think about it, is that is, purely by design.
You wanna watch out it’s the Carbon monoxide a relation it’s colorless odorless tasteless gas.
The Bible says is a man whose words are smooth as oil.
Oh, listen to that, but in those words are dagger And so that is more, I think, I believe, is intentional.
I’m aware I’m doing it. My job is to spray w d 40 in front of you on a towel floor and watch you slip, I’m gonna disregulate you.
I think he has mostly he or she largely, if not fully aware that I’m gonna do this to get you disregulated.
And again, a past will sign of emotional abuse.
Absolutely. Check your body. Why do I feel like something’s going on here?
Why do I even know what’s going on? I call you when I call I call that relational vertigo.
You think of what vertigo does, but there’s a relational vertigo. I feel wise.
Things are spinning up and pay attention to the spinning. And they go talk to someone.