How To Grow Your Kid

The Bible says that we should “train up our children in the way that they should go, and when they are old, they will not depart from it.” What does this mean and how do we put this into practice with kids? When you start to train your children in the daily, mundane acts of life, they’ll begin to trust you and you can then start to bring spiritual lessons to them. Learn how to “grow your kid” so that they will never be confused about who they are and who God is.

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hey the Bible says train up a child in the way that he she they should go what does that mean is it true how do you do it let’s find out real life presents the Jack hibs podcast with intention and boldness to Proclaim truth equip the Saints and impact our culture today if this podcast lifts you up and encourages you to live a more fulfilled life in Christ then make sure you leave us one of those five star ratings to us that’s like saying amen or yes then that rating will encourage others to listen now open your hearts to what

God’s word has to say to you here is Jack Hibbs well everybody Welcome to the Jack Hibbs podcast today we’re going to be talking about something that involves every single one of us I know that’s a tall statement but it is absolutely true we’re talking about being a kid being a kid growing up coming to that place of uh do I dare say it um in the natural uh world of humans there’s a a natural uh puberty that takes place uh without doctors being involved it’s amazing how we got here after all these years

without doctors messing with our puberties uh but uh God’s got a great plan and specifically uh this might uh speak to most of you who are uh either teens or you have a teen and uh I’d like to start out with the profound philosopher the great thinker uh the the sage of wisdom Mark Twain Mark Twain said that when you have a kid turn into being a teenager uh it is time to put them in a 55 gallon barrel and feed them through the hole and when they reach 21 seal up the hole that’s kind of fatalistic but you

get the drift it’s like we bring our little children in the world and God gives them to us and the Bible says that they are a gift and happy is the man who has a quiver full of them but nowhere is that said of the woman because she’s running around picking up the pieces it’s family listen life family life it’s messy uh it’s loud it is uh it’s it’s somewhat there’s a level of craziness in growing up a family and we just need to get used to that for some of you have never heard such a thing um I remember

years ago you guys this was so fun leis and I we were flown out to Little Rock Arkansas and we did a couple of programs uh back in those days with family life with uh Dennis Rainey uh Bob lepine and Dennis Rainey and we sat down at a table and we’re doing radio we’re doing a program on being a family and um right in the middle of the show the phone rang uh uh Dennis rainy’s phone rang and there was an argument between his two daughters about who who got the box I thought it was mine I thought my name

was on it and he’s he told he had to say to them Listen Listen whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa listen we’ll talk about this when when I get home and he hung up and I’m thinking wow this is so refreshing to see a family life specialist a world now um minister of family life uh going going through the Dynamics of a family and he so it was so beautiful he hung up the phone put the phone down and he said as you can see we’re a family also and so let’s get in and it was like yes that’s right family

warts and all family but let’s talk about raising up kids so number one the Bible does tell us that they are a blessing they’re a gift given to us by God which is why side note Satan wants to kill babies and Satan wants Democrats to rule and Reign so they can install abortion because it is their religious act to eventually uh change the Supreme Court that they might enshrine our nation again to the violation of God’s will that children are a blessing look if you if you know anybody who doesn’t

want their baby they shouldn’t abort it they should put it up for adoption option cuz boy I tell you we know people who want to adopt babies they’re a blessing are they hard work yes is it rewarding yes God made us to reproduce if I was an evolutionist right now I would be saying to you um the survival of the fittest is predicated upon the ability or the strength to breed so for example when we look at the animal kingdom it’s always uh the boore when I say boore I’m talking about the male bear the great male brown or black

or grizzly bear who is the one that rules and Reigns in a particular area of territory and he is the one that sires uh these baby cubs these little bear cubs right and why is he the guy well because by fighting and Waring he wins the uh gold medal to be the the one the alpha male and evolutionist looks at that and they say well look it’s the survival of the fittest and um which is interesting because they take a god engineered reality that has always been but they don’t want to think about God so they’ll

call it it’s the survival of the fittest or natural selection listen uh there is no natural selection apart from what God has engineered okay The evolutionary theory is an accident it’s not only an accident uh in the mind of thinking it’s an accident that never took place in the past uh God is the design engineer life is built that way and it doesn’t work well unless it’s structured around a family the healthier stronger the family uh the healthier and stronger the outcome of the children and so what I

want to touch on in our brief time together is something that in this day and age is a simple truth that has gone missing a simple truth that has gone missing and it is this Proverbs the book of wisdom Proverbs out of the Bible Proverbs 22:6 says train up a child in the way that he should go or we could even say or she could go if you have a daughter and when he is old he will not depart from it what does that mean first of all train up to train up a child is to do this Mom and Dad listen carefully to train up a child I want you to get

this picture in your mind think of it is um is if I am a journeyman uh ston worker Craftsman I’m the journeyman but with me is an apprentice the the relationship between the journeyman and The Apprentice goes this way by the way the same meaning is true about Jesus being master and us being his servants or him being Lord and we being his followers um him being God and we being his children it means this the journeyman the journeyman puts his hand on the project right so he’s working the stone or the poy or the

painting and The Apprentice puts his hands on top of the St uh on top of the the journeyman’s hands so that The Apprentice is actually doing no work at all the journeyman’s doing the work but The Apprentice is feeling every movement I’m not sure if you can see my hands where I’m at on the table uh producer Sean says that you can so watch here’s the journeyman here’s the apprentice and here’s what it looks like I’m I’m sanding right or I’m sculpting The Apprentice goes like this

he’s doing no work but he’s feeling all the work get done he’s sensing the pressure he’s sensing the speed the motion the movement the intensity he’s starting to develop an appreciation for what the journeyman has known for a lifetime right you got that train up a child you are the journeyman mom and dad you are the expert I know it doesn’t feel like that right insert raising children immediately causes all of us as grown adults to all of a sudden feel incredibly overwhelmed and we can’t do it this is too big I

know I know but again that’s why we have a family structure that’s where older brothers and sisters come in that’s where moms and dads which are grandmas and grandpas come in this is where aunts and uncles come in it’s a family and so we all feel overwhelmed raising kids thank God you know in this Christian world right now there’s more books written about being a family and we’ve never had more messed up families than ever before why because we simply do not do Proverbs 22: 6 train up a

child have them learn everything you know so to speak example are you a police officer are you an attorney are you a home maker are you a school teacher are you a truck driver whatever it is there is from the earliest moments of their young ages you can reveal to them life in the areas where you are the journeyman you are the expert in these various areas of your life’s vocation when it’s a day off and it’s time to work in the backyard listen I know this is tough but when it’s time to work in the backyard

you don’t want kids all around you because they’ll it it what takes an hour it takes six hours but to be a parent you you bring your kid out there and you have them help you you ask them hey buddy listen can you pick that up right now and move it over here can you bring the trash can tilt it this is how you tilt it hold the put your foot on the wheels of the trash barrel and tilt it back you can do it you can do it and you help them do it okay now pull it buddy pull it bring it over by where the moow

is at that a boy that takes you four times longer than it does for you to do it yourself but you don’t pass on anything to your kid moms and dads grandmas and grandpas out there I want you to start deliberately in fact even make a list after hearing this podcast write down one two or three things that you’re going to start doing that are so basic to you you never think about it and I want you to bring your grandchild or bring your child in on it hey let’s do this this is how this is done you need to know this you need to

know this kiddo and this is what we’re going to do and so uh do that he said Jack that seems so basic it’s the opening of a door to establish a lifelong relationship of saying hey you know what when I was your age I learned this and some of you who know me or you drive by my house you know that I’m a freak about mowing my lawn in straight lines call it a uh an obsession my dad put that into the head of my brother and I and that’s what we do um I know right now I could show up unannounced to my

brother’s house and this I know I don’t know what kind of what condition his home will be in but I know this his yard will have perfect lines of mowing right I got that from my dad so listen train up a child here here’s where it gets fun OSS imprint cause the journeyman’s hand to take The Apprentice hand and watch the shift the journeyman puts The Apprentice hand on the stone and now the journeyman begins to move the hands of The Apprentice so the journeyman’s hands are still moving but now in a different way

as we mature along from being two years old to five years old watch this journeyman Apprentice two years old five years old Apprentice journeyman the journeyman is still the parent doing the work but now it’s being done through the hand of the child to expose them to the actual now this is where they’re going to maybe uh to make my point they’re going to start getting calluses they feel it stronger they feel it more vividly um there’s a there’s more sweat to it they begin to appreciate the cost of it things that

they’ve never known before but because now they’re acting in the place of the journey or of the parent they realize so now I get it when we leave all the lights on in the house we have less money to go to the movies or to get popcorn or to have fun so I’m going to start turning off the lights Dad when I leave the room cuz now I understand this is how life works and here’s where it gets awesome in my opinion train up a child in the way that he should go and I don’t mean to be crude or I don’t mean to be rude but this applies

to either a he or a she well how do you know well the Bible says he but we also know from God’s Logic you don’t raise up boys with all the skills and leave a girl to sit in the corner and not know anything God does not hold anyone in preference he esteems all worthy right so if you have a daughter how do you know what’s your biology because listen this is no joke I know that there’s people out there I have no respect for them I’m telling you right now have no respect for a fool the Bible says don’t respect a fool the

Bible says don’t give a fool one moment the Bible says to avoid fools the Bible says don’t answer a fool and the Bible says let a fool fo leave a fool in their Folly when somebody says well we we’re not we are not going to declare the gender of our child we’re just going to let them figure that on on their own uh that is uh Class A uh type one child abuse God says train up in the child in the way that he should go if you have a child that is XX chromosome that’s a female if you have x y That’s a male and so if you have a

biological male it means you the parent are supposed to be it’s not hard it’s not rocket science you see this is a boy so what that means is I’m going to train this kid how to crawl around in the dirt I’m going to teach this kid how to use a hammer and a nail and you see Mom and Dad just calm down I don’t want my kid to have some menial task job we’re not talking about that I hope your kid grows up to be a brain surgeon don’t get me wrong but the brain surgeon still has to hang a

picture at home drive the nail teach your kid how to change the oil teach your kid how to sweat you know we have a problem in America children are not sweating did you know that’s an actual medical issue children are not sweating and so they’re storing up toxins in their body we got to get our kids sweating again teach them how to S wet teach them how to put a trailer hitch on a on the truck or the van or the or the SUV teach them how to clean windows get get XX or XY doesn’t matter everybody needs to clean windows train

up in train up a child in the way that they should go everybody likes clean windows someday your kids got to clean windows train your kids from the earliest age hey everybody guess what we’re going to do right now and they’re looking at you you know by the way when they’re young when they’re like two and three you say you know what we’re going to do and they’re go what we are going to play clean the living room and you’re going to be on the vacuum and you’re going to be on the on the pillows on the

couch you’re going to arrange them that looks good and you’re going to vacuum this way here I’ll show you guys I’ll do a couple of pillows journeyman and I’m going to do a couple of pushes with the vacuum journeyman why so The Apprentice can try it this is raising up a kid in the way that they should go you see Jack aren’t you going to get super spiritual about this though I mean isn’t that where we’re supposed to go you’re reading out of the Bible you’re talking about spiritual things

right I’m talking about what comes first in reality and that is teaching your little kid from the beginning before they know anything about theological issues you you teach your child every time they see something on the floor that’s not supposed to be on the floor they pick it up and set it on the table have you ever heard people say well we we childproof our home well okay maybe you have to do that you can do that to some extent but I’m a big fan of teaching your child how to respect the home that doesn’t mean you beat it into

them that doesn’t mean you tie a uh you know a something around their neck so they can see it all the time no no no no no I’m talking about that you would say to them see that that vase right there that’s Grandma’s vase it’s very very uh uh precious Grandma loves that it’s one of a kind nobody’s got one like that so hey kids here’s the deal we stay away from that okay we treat that with respect you can’t say to your little one see that yep don’t touch it the moment you say that and leave the

room guess what they’re going to touch you got to tell them why that’s Grandma’s vase she loves that that was given to her by her Grandpa and so someday that’s going to be one of yours that’s pretty cool right so here’s the deal we’re going to treat that with respect because it means something and they got an answer they got an answer when you start to train them they’re going to start to trust you and so when you take them out now let’s go spiritual and fact without without kidding you whatsoever I mean

what I’m about to say let’s go deep spiritually with them let’s take them out into the backyard we’re going to go spiritually deep now we’re going to say in the beginning God created the heavens and the Earth wow the Bible says that God created everything that creeps on the earth at that moment your kids could care less at that moment there’s no picture their their memory bank uh the synapses and the operation and memory storage it’s blank what they’ve heard is we’re going to go in the

backyard and God created everything that creeps on the earth that’s all they know which quite frankly is theoretical let’s not raise he’s and she’s theoretical about the existence of God theory is for the laboratory for concept when you have a concept and a theory it is also the same laboratory that creates it and puts it to the test mom and dad your Park your neighborhood a terrarium your garden is the laboratory take your kids out in the backyard and say kids what did I just say a moment ago let me repeat that God created every

what everything that creeps on the Earth well let’s see what’s creeping in our backyard you see anything creeping nope well where do you think we’ll find things creeping on the earth and maybe your little one doesn’t know but you say let’s get on our hands and knees let’s look around and you go over there to the flowers to the garden and there’s a rock in there there maybe there’s a brick or maybe there’s a something and you turn it over and I guarantee you you’ll see a worm quickly

go down into the Earth or you’ll see a little bug Scurry away and you’re telling your kids look at that didn’t God say that there it is God did that that’s amazing he he made everything and he made the birds of the air that fly through the sky through the air he made those birds see any birds no I don’t see any birds wait if you don’t see any birds close your eyes listen do you hear any birds and you’re going to hear a bird you might hear more than one so kids listen we just heard a

bird how do we find the bird when we can’t see the bird okay wait stand here stand this way listen move your ears around where do you think the bird is I think it’s over there I think it’s over there because that’s where I I I heard it over there listen you’re taking what God Said is true and your kids now are seeing it in their heads they’re touching it with their hands they’re hearing it with their eyes and a picture is being formed in their mind if they can’t see the bird but they

can hear the bird ask them what color is the bird you think I think it’s black I think it’s brown I think it’s white they might say all right let’s see you think it’s a big bird how big is the bird oh it’s a little bird no I think it’s a bird like this let them guess let them play why what are they doing you are training up a child in the way that they should go they should be thinkers they should be analyzers they should be researchers they should be explorers why do we why do you think we love

Adventure you know we’re in our offices at least in America we’re in our offices 51 weeks out of the year and then we get a week off for vacation Europeans I don’t know I’m starting to love the European model way way better Europeans take uh four to six weeks off a year for vacation it’s totally normal there uh in America it’s brutal we take a week off and I don’t think that’s enough we take a week off to try to to find ourselves or to find something cool but here’s the point if you’ve got a few days or a few

months off you know what you do you go like this where are we going to go what are we going to do you know God made us to be explorers isn’t amazing you read about mellan and Balboa you read about Cortez and cornado you read about Columbus you read about um the fuka and all these guys that were adventurers and they they traveled the globe I don’t know about you but I am not going to get an 100 foot ship and sail the Atlantic are you nuts but that’s all they knew back then and the drive of exploration was greater than

their fear of dying and they said we got to go man we got to check this out your kids were born with that god-given human nature of exploration train up a child in the way that they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it when you begin to ingrain within your kids that discovering bugs finding worms identifying birds and looking at leaves with a magnifying glass and through or at night taking the leaf and Shining a flashlight behind the leaf and looking at all the veins and all of the um arteries and the

the capillaries that are in a leaf you tell your kids now watch this and you hold your hand up to your kids and you turn on a nice big strong flashlight behind your hand and they can see your bones in the blood vessels just like the leaf you know what you say you say to them the same God that made this hand is the same God that made this leaf and you can even tell by some of his design features that he built into us and they’ll never forget it why am I saying this because that’s how you introduce the Bible to your

kids and when they are old they will not depart from it you know what that means it means that no matter what in life that has been seated in their mind and their imagination and in their storage banks for ever God has promised it to be there so if for example your child is Wayward the context of this verse is often used to quote or to pray for a wayward child I get it I do understand that but most importantly it’s actually to know that you have a son or a daughter and to raise raise them in that direction and then I’ll end with

this if you have son if you have a son you expose them to male things male things meaning this and it’s by the way it’s Loosely uh I I Loosely put this because man things look changing the oil in the car is not a man thing our daughters should know how to change the oil in in our cars that’s good for them to know that look our sons should know know how to change the tire a flat tire our daughters should know how to change a flat tire but what I’m saying is that a boy should be handed things that are

part of the boy nature that’s within a boy uh for example it doesn’t take any instruction whatsoever and this is a great experiment by the way to to do at home it’s not 100% because there’s curiosity within a child but we have to direct them but this is a good place to to end if you put in your backyard uh some some stuffed animals uh maybe some toys airplane some toy guns uh Barbie um GI Joe is there even I don’t even know if there’s a GI Joe anymore I hope there is I I had them all growing

up not Barbie I had all GI Jo’s um basketball slingshot mirror magnifying glass you see what I’m saying put that stuff out there Mom and Dad pull back let the kids go out in the backyard watch who does what with what most often most often the boys will gravitate toward the gun automatically the boys will automatically gravitate toward um a magnet if Ying glass perhaps now these are generalities okay so watch you might be saying oh my gosh I did that and my boy went straight for the doll so he must be gay no he’s not

here’s what you do he goes for the he goes for the doll and he and he looks at it and you should go to him and say what is that it’s a doll who who plays with the doll I I think I was thinking about playing with it what are you going to do with it I don’t know well why don’t you ask your sister or the Girl Next Door who’s in the backyard with us in this little experiment ask Susie if she wants to play with the doll Susie you want to play with this doll you have any need for the doll more often than not the the

the girl will say that that doll looks like it needs help that doll looks like it it it’s a it’s lonely this is often how things go this is child development you see you and I have been conditioned oh that’s so sexist that is so gender insensitive that that with with all due respect that is the argument of lunacy that is the woke sick mentality that violates 100% the command of scripture if your three-year-old boy wants to wear your high heels in the house and he goes down High uh the hallway with your high heels you should

say hey little Jack what are you doing I’m playing with these shoes well listen those are mine so listen you want to play with shoes put your dad’s work boots on and do the same thing give those back to me right now what what did you just do you just sent him a message that little boys put on Big Boy boots if you don’t see that plainly then you’ve already been woked woked and whacked by this by by A system that denies the existence of God you’ve got to train up a child in the way that they

should go and if you think I’m making this up how about this do you have a job at your job you should have a job at a place that says something like hey Jack you’ve been doing this job for six months you’re doing it good we’re going to move you on on now to a new part of what this company does you know what that’s called that’s called a promotion that’s not gender insensitive that’s not being mean they’re developing you same is true with a child you develop them upward and

onward and you might say well my my my daughter is very very tomboyish yep lot of tomboyish type girls I think they’re pretty awesome to be honest with you a tomboy girl is is fun stuff because you know what she’s the one that you want to take out because she totally wants to go she comes you and says Dad I want to go to the shooting range I want to shoot some guns say yeah come on girl we’ll show you how those things work it’s a it’s so much fun just prepare yourself dad women Shooters are way more accurate

than us guys they have an amazing gentle squeeze on the trigger a very still hand there’s nothing wrong with that it’s fantastic or your son might say I want to spend more time in the kitchen learning how to cook and bake some really awesome stuff that doesn’t mean he’s gay it means he’s more like Jacob in the Bible Jacob was a dude in the kitchen did you know that Esau was the guy out in the field there’s nothing wrong with that just make it something that your son or your daughter is aware of the fact all along

the way in life that they happen to be a female cop they happen to be a male cop they happen to be a female captain of United Airlines or a male captain of United Airlines they happen to be a female in a construction zone or a male in a construction zone there’s nothing wrong with that just teach them because the ultimate goal is to teach them about the Lord and what they experience in life should be consistent with the instruction of scripture and your child will grow up never being confused never being confused I’m really

o see the response to this podcast because I don’t know where it’s happening right now but you’re seeing comments being made somewhere around here and people are saying oh my gosh that makes sense look at that one right there people are saying that guy’s an idiot uh people are saying things like yeah that’s how I was raised people are saying I never had any parents I wish I would have known this before or I’ve been doing it the wrong way and I’m going to change that today

good Bible truth is the only truth all truth is God’s truth and it has Sav your life so listen as always remember hit subscribe give us the five star give us the thumbs up give us the likes tell people about this podcast share it with others but as always it’s time for us to live out what we believe in it’s time for real life and at the Jack KBS podcast living out real life is what we want to do God bless you guys until next time this Jack KBS podcast as well as all the broadcast Outreach opportunities

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