Defying a Culture of Rejection – Pt 1 | Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer
Defying a Culture of Rejection – Pt 1 | Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer
How do you respond to rejection? Today on Enjoying Everyday Life, Joyce Meyer, Ginger, Erin, and their special guest, Lisa Bevere, talk through some of the ways rejection finds us in everyday life and share ways to heal from its effects.
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with us today how do you handle rejection rejection can be incredibly painful we all want to be accepted and when we are not it can take us down some very difficult roads and it’s Universal all of us will face it at one time or another so for these next two days Joyce Aaron clly Lisa bav and I are going to share our own experiences with rejection and give you some different ways to handle it this discussion from our talk it out podcast is insightful and practical I hope you really enjoy it hi everyone are you ready to talk it out
this is going to be a really good episode we are here to talk through the real things of life with our girlfriends and we don’t hold anything back we are so glad that you are here with us I’m Jinger stocky with Aaron clly Joyce Meyer oh yeah y Joy thank you for letting me come and our special friend Lisa B is here with us once again Lisa we had so much fun last time thank you for being thank you for you know not leaving thank you for staying here like I I just planted on the sofa can’t get off of it
thanks for being on our beautiful your shirt I like animal print stuff thank you there you go see I like this affirmation this is all good because let’s just build each other up let’s take one minute and build each other up before we start the show what do you like about me Aaron I love you start something for you about me that I like that about you so much you tell me what it is you tell it like it is I love you because you’re just such a hard worker and you try so hard but I’m trying to get you not to try so hard
you are you’re getting better at it I’m almost there that’s really nice yeah thank you want what do you want to say nice about me well I just think you’re wonderful I don’t know what I would do without you I would be crazy if I didn’t have you working for me we’d all be crazy without her yeah well I love you all I just think you’re fabulous yeah right and Lisa is just so cool is it great to have Lisa with us and you’ve always been so kind oh good I I love that you you’re
just you’re comfortable and and you’re you’re anointed and inspired but you’re also just kind and easy to be around you’re easy to have what do you like about me I was going to say I love that you know how to ask for what you need yes good I think a lot of people don’t have permission or Clarity on those kind of things and you knew what you needed to do to to actually ask for what you needed to fulfill what God called on you and I love that you pioneered when everybody resisted you thank you I love
you for loving me now let’s start the show yeah and G I love that you’re you just shown everybody how to have friends yeah this is glorious what a wonderful you make people feel good they will love you they may they may not remember what you said to them but they will always remember how you made them feel yeah which is a great example because today we are talking through what it is to live in this culture of rejection how to deal with rejection and and the fact that it’s not if you have to face it it’s it’s when and how you
will do it so um we’re we’re going to be talking about that today and and hopefully giving people a whole lot of very practical ways to handle it we just really are in a place where rejection is rampant it’s it’s everywhere what what are your thoughts just about rejection in culture and general before we get into some of the specifics on ways that we faced rejection and how we kind of deal with it well you know one of the things that that I discovered um coming up in ministry as a woman and you know when God promotes you
he promotes you I believe in stages and degrees so like I taught home Bible studies five years and of course when I went into Ministry I was rejected by my friends and family in the church I was in God asked to leave my church so in order to go ahead and do what God wanted me to do I had to get beyond that rejection yeah then after those five years I went to work at a church in St Louis and uh I was ordained there my pastor ordained me after a while and then I got some more rejection from that from people who didn’t believe
a woman should be ordained and then after 5 years there God called me to take my Ministry go northsouth east and west once again I experienced a lot of rejection you’re just full of yourself you’re full of Pride you you know full of ambition you shouldn’t be doing this should be content where you’re at and blah blah blah and so I found that when I went on television every time that God tried to promote me it took me a while to realize what was going on I got some kind of major rejection and it it didn’t come from out
here from people I didn’t care right it came from people that meant a lot to me that I cared what they thought M so I just want to tell you if you want to do what God wants you to do and live your life the way you feel that you’re supposed to live it you will have to confront and deal with rejection and get to the point where you really know that you don’t have to have those people in order to live your life and be happy that’s good yeah that’s that’s really important especially when it is
people that you care about I mean that’s the hardest it’s hard from anybody actually but it’s very hard when it’s people that you thought were your friends the people that you thought had your back yeah um and you’re you’re caught off guard you’re wanted people to know how the devil uses it yeah and that it is a tool of the devil to keep you from going forward haven’t you found that Lisa absolutely and I would agree with you that every single time you try to take territory right you will get
questioned right I remember when I wrote my First Book car it’s a very different time and now everybody’s like just wrote the first page sign the contract I was like hiding it yeah I did not I I thought I I was hearing so much from the enemy like what do you have to say why would anybody read who do you think you are who exactly and and yet just moving beyond that and yet as you were talking Joy I thought about how it said that Jesus came to his own and they did not receive him yeah they hated him without
a cause Without a Cause there there was complete rejection and the rejection of his own open the door to us all and so God will actually use rejection to open a bigger door so every time you said okay I man I wish they would have seen this but to move you have to keep going past it because if not you’re trapped by the fear of man and the fear of man is a snare and you’ll just keep going in the same Circle and so you have to say I’m going to keep moving forward with this um when I wrote my very first book I
remember I wanted I wanted to bring some of my family into some of the truth and they were like you can’t just say that that isn’t just and and I remember I was like but they’re not my own people my own people are saying this isn’t right who who do I go to and God said I’m calling you out into a life of Faith right you cannot drag them in you go well I tell you to go go and it’s an act of obedience and every time I felt any kind of promotion you have to choose between obeying the fear of man or
trembling in the fear of God yeah I heard a preacher say and I really liked it he said at every bus stop somebody gets off wow wow and I thought that was so good you know it’s like you yeah that’s deep you know you’re like think about it yeah people no I mean there are people that I thought would be with me forever there that got off in the second bus stop yeah yeah but then people get on too but then people get on get people get on and they’re waiting and to be honest sometimes people are just for a season a
lot of times they’re just for a season and we have to not feel rejected because somebody doesn’t want to stay with us forever we have to be confident enough to let people go and to bless them in their going if that’s what they want to do we’ve had a lot of people leave over the years and a lot of people that have stayed 20 and 30 years but you know sometimes people leave they just they don’t have anything against you they just want to go do something else or and we just bless them I’m I’m
not going to get into that you know well why are you leaving and I’m mad because you’re leaving and I know it’s hard for pastors when somebody leaves their church and some pastors feel so rejected when somebody leaves you need to bless them yeah when they go and it’s interesting how many times people will leave and if if you let them leave the right way they’ll end up coming back yeah well here’s the thing too when you begin to sense rejection when you begin to it really experience it in your life
it it it sinks into you and you begin to see rejection everywhere y so sometimes we accept rejection that is not even that it’s like you said it’s just who need to move on who God is calling to something else but we take it because our heart has been wounded it seeps into those cracks of the wound and we see rejection everywhere we look you were like lens of rejection exactly that’s how you see exactly you have a root of rejection in your life you take so many things as rejection that aren’t and I’ve
got a great story to tell about that Dave I was out playing golf with him one day and and he was really playing bad and so so I kept putting my hand on his shoulder patting him and you know and he pushed it away and he said don’t do that don’t patronize me and I felt so rejected and hurt and God told me later he said don’t get mad at him because you’re trying to give him what you need instead of finding out what he needs mhm and yeah uh another thing that I discovered was Dave and I just seemed
like we couldn’t talk about anything without fighting and God finally showed me that if Dave didn’t agree with me I felt rejected Y and he said you have to understand that just because somebody rejects your opinion or your idea doesn’t mean they’re rejecting you and I to me I think that’s a big point because a lot of people if you don’t agree with everything they say and do and think and want then you’re rejecting them and I’ve told people like we’ve got a lot of cre people here and creative people can be
real protective of what they’ve created very I’m not sure what she’s talking about not talk about us you know I’ve tried to tell I don’t have to deal with it anymore when I used to have to deal with you know correcting somebody or telling them that’s not really going to work you know you’re going to they get all bent out of shape and I tried to tell people you know it’s it’s not direction is not correction and I didn’t hire you to do what you like I hired you to do what I like you know and so just you
know if you can’t give me what I like without getting upset then it’s not going to work so yeah well I think too there’s there’s so much comfort in realizing that Jesus understood all of this he faced so much rejection he constantly he had to you know in very different ways than we do imagine betrayed oh my goodness so much so denied we’re going to start with Joyce sharing just a a little bit of a teaching on how I thought we had started okay we’re going to jump in here in the Middle with a little bit of
teaching about how much Jesus really understands what it is that you’re feeling Jesus’s family did not understand him his brothers basically were ashamed to be associated with him they were like well at least if you’re going to go around saying all these things how about doing a few Miracles yeah my family didn’t understand I mean my immediate family did but not not Dave’s family not my extended family nobody understood and you know what I believe that one of the greatest one of the number one tools that Satan
uses to keep people from fulfilling the call of God on their life is rejection there’s no pain that’s any worse than rejection we just crave and want acceptance so I love Ephesians that says that we are made acceptable in the Beloved God accepts you today he loves you let’s look at is uh Isaiah 53: before I had not looked at this for a long time and I opened this up this morning and looked at this and I thought wow that scripture my now keeping in mind that everything Jesus did he did it for us he bore it
for us he took our place this is a powerful scripture Isaiah 5033 he was despised and rejected and forsaken by men a Man of Sorrows and pains and acquainted with grief and sickness and like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised and we did not appreciate his Worth or have any esteem for him wow he gets us and he bore all those things for us so in him we could go through those things and not be destroyed by them did you hear me we don’t necessarily get to avoid all those things but the truth is the Bible says that when people reject
me in effect they’re rejecting Christ because he’s the one who sent me see I don’t know if you know it or not but God thinks you’re a pretty cool person and he loves to hang out with you he never gets tired of seeing your face I love that reassurance first of all that that we are understood that he gets us he knows what we’re going through but he also is the one that we can always count on to never reject us to never turn his back on us um all those things that we’re feeling um we can give to him and he understands it
says if they reject you they’ve rejected me right so yeah yeah yeah so let’s talk about some some specific things that that bring up rejection in people um like we said everybody has to deal with it whether it’s something that that has been something maybe that happened when you are really young and it comes back time after time when other people do something like you were talking about actually Joyce with with if Dave would disagree with you it would it would come back to that that rejection everything
felt like re if if I was not getting overt acceptance like really aggressive acceptance then I automatically took it as re rection because God what God showed me is you have a root of rejection in your life and it got started in my childhood from the sexual abuse and from my mom not protecting me and you know just growing up feeling weird my whole life because I had to hide all this and couldn’t have any friends and and so I had I had a root and you know it’s why sometimes people they keep trying to clip off the fruit
of their bad behavior but they never get to the the root yeah of what the problem really is so it just pops up somewhere else oh yeah and let’s just give a real basic definition of rejection so people get it to be cast aside to be thrown away as having no value and that’s our greatest fear I think is that that’s going to happen you’re going to tell me I’m not good enough and I don’t belong wherever it is that I would turns into like Lisa said the fear of man and I was thinking about Saul because I’ve been reading 1 Samuel
and he disobeyed God and lost his ministry because he was told to do something not to do something until the prophet got there till Samuel got there and he went ahead and did it anyway because he said the people were scattering yeah yeah he felt compelled and I was afraid of the people well I loved what you said uh earlier in the day where you said God didn’t raise children to never hear the word no yeah I mean like there is there is nose right and and even like and I’ve heard people say rejection is