Dealing With Unrealistic Expectations | Joyce Meyer
Dealing With Unrealistic Expectations
Unrealistic expectations steal our joy, we are responsible for our own level of joy, be realistic in your expectations, find joy in the ordinary, everyday things of life, learn to embrace where you are in life.
The Scripture says, “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so.” If you want to break the addiction, say so. If you want to start that business, say so. If you want to accomplish your dreams, say so. There may not be any sign of it, but you need to announce to people, “I am blessed. I am free.” If you’ll start announcing what you’ve heard, not in arrogance, not like a know-it-all, but in humility with quiet confidence, then you’re releasing your faith. That’s what allows God to bring it to pass.
You’re mad because somebody that you’re in relationship with is not keeping you happy.
But maybe you need to take responsibility for your own joy and decide to be happy in the Lord.
We have to take responsibility for our own stuff.
So that took a big load off of Dave when I finally stopped, depending on him are some people, they expect other people to make them feel good about themselves all the time.
And you know, that can just wear somebody out.
I mean, when you constantly depend on them to keep you up and running and fixed and feeling ok about yourself, eventually you just wear people out and they don’t even want to be in a relationship with you anymore.
So when you know who you are in Christ and you feel good about yourself, then you’re, you’re not putting that job off on somebody else and it makes relationships healthy and whole.
Just a few opening comments here.
We do not live life on the mountain top and facing that reality helps us to be prepared for real life.
You see, even though I believe in having big dreams, we also have to be prepared for real life.
We have times that we enjoy that are on the mountain top of life.
But we all know that we live most of life in the ordinary every day.
Right. And I was kind of thinking about this and it’s kind of interesting, you know, we, we want to be enthused all the time and we want to be excited all the time.
But I hear people say, and I feel like this like after the Christmas and the New Year holidays, you’ve got a long time of things being different.
And most people will say I’ll be so glad to get back to my regular routine.
So really, we do like our normal everyday life.
We need what I call the spice in life.
The little extra things once in a while, the birthday party of the new dress, the vacation, we need things like that to shake it up and make it different.
But to be honest, most of life is just getting up and going to bed, getting up and going to bed, getting up and going to bed, going to work cleaning the house, watching somebody get it dirty, cleaning it again, going to church, going home, going to the grocery store, eating the food, cleaning up the mess.
Right? Most of every day is just so I think it’s a great game to play with the devil to just watch him try to make you unhappy and not let him because more than anything.
The enemy does not want us to be happy.
If the world is full of happy Christians, then a lot more people want to be one.
Amen. John 10 10, the thief comes only to kill, steal and destroy.
But Jesus said I came that you might have and enjoy your life, not just have life but enjoy your life.
And that means you have, we have to learn how to enjoy the ordinary everyday life, cleaning your house, doing your laundry, changing the oil in the car, driving in traffic.
And really when we have a really tight right deep relationship with God, you can do that.
That’s what the joy of the Lord is.
We just have to realize that every day is not going to be an exciting day.
It can be a good day, but it doesn’t have to be an exciting day.
And to be honest, even even people going to church today and I don’t mean this insulting, but people that are up here feel it.
A lot of times people expect to be entertained when they go to church and that’s so far away from what we should be feeling when we come and the people up here from the worship team to the preacher, to the media, people, whatever, we should not feel like we have to entertain you.
We’re here to tell you things that are going to change your life and set you free and get you through next week with a smile on your face.
Amen. The life you have is the one you have and hating it is not going to get you another one.
Stop running away from the things you have and learn how to embrace them and enjoy where you’re at right now.
But maybe you need to take responsibility for your own joy and decide to be happy in the Lord.
We have to take responsibility for our own stuff.
So that took a big load off of Dave when I finally stopped, depending on him are some people, they expect other people to make them feel good about themselves all the time.
And you know, that can just wear somebody out.
I mean, when you constantly depend on them to keep you up and running and fixed and feeling ok about yourself, eventually you just wear people out and they don’t even want to be in a relationship with you anymore.
So when you know who you are in Christ and you feel good about yourself, then you’re, you’re not putting that job off on somebody else and it makes relationships healthy and whole.
Just a few opening comments here.
We do not live life on the mountain top and facing that reality helps us to be prepared for real life.
You see, even though I believe in having big dreams, we also have to be prepared for real life.
We have times that we enjoy that are on the mountain top of life.
But we all know that we live most of life in the ordinary every day.
Right. And I was kind of thinking about this and it’s kind of interesting, you know, we, we want to be enthused all the time and we want to be excited all the time.
But I hear people say, and I feel like this like after the Christmas and the New Year holidays, you’ve got a long time of things being different.
And most people will say I’ll be so glad to get back to my regular routine.
So really, we do like our normal everyday life.
We need what I call the spice in life.
The little extra things once in a while, the birthday party of the new dress, the vacation, we need things like that to shake it up and make it different.
But to be honest, most of life is just getting up and going to bed, getting up and going to bed, getting up and going to bed, going to work cleaning the house, watching somebody get it dirty, cleaning it again, going to church, going home, going to the grocery store, eating the food, cleaning up the mess.
Right? Most of every day is just so I think it’s a great game to play with the devil to just watch him try to make you unhappy and not let him because more than anything.
The enemy does not want us to be happy.
If the world is full of happy Christians, then a lot more people want to be one.
Amen. John 10 10, the thief comes only to kill, steal and destroy.
But Jesus said I came that you might have and enjoy your life, not just have life but enjoy your life.
And that means you have, we have to learn how to enjoy the ordinary everyday life, cleaning your house, doing your laundry, changing the oil in the car, driving in traffic.
And really when we have a really tight right deep relationship with God, you can do that.
That’s what the joy of the Lord is.
We just have to realize that every day is not going to be an exciting day.
It can be a good day, but it doesn’t have to be an exciting day.
And to be honest, even even people going to church today and I don’t mean this insulting, but people that are up here feel it.
A lot of times people expect to be entertained when they go to church and that’s so far away from what we should be feeling when we come and the people up here from the worship team to the preacher, to the media, people, whatever, we should not feel like we have to entertain you.
We’re here to tell you things that are going to change your life and set you free and get you through next week with a smile on your face.
Amen. The life you have is the one you have and hating it is not going to get you another one.
Stop running away from the things you have and learn how to embrace them and enjoy where you’re at right now.
I love the honesty and wisdom of this message. It reminds me of what the Episcopal Church calls “ordinary time” – that long stretch between Pentecost and Advent. The majority of our life is “ordinary time” and there’s so much beauty in that everyday, ordinary time in our lives. The Joy of the Lord is always available to us, we just have to choose it and to remember, the Joy of the Lord is our strength. Thanks Joyce.