God accepts and approves you right where you are faults and all mistakes, shortcomings, not when you overcome, but right now He knows you’re on a journey.
He’s changing you little by little. He accepts you. Now you have to accept yourself. He approves you.
You have to approve yourself. Well, God bless you.
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Thanks again for coming out in person. I like to start with something funny. And I heard about this reporter.
He was visiting churches across the nation while in the northeast.
He saw a gold phone on the wall with a sign that said calls $10,000 per minute.
He asked the pastor what it meant. The pastor explained that it was a direct line to heaven.
If you were willing to pay the price, you could talk directly to God.
He continued visiting different churches, seeing the same gold phone, same sign.
When he finally made it to Texas, he saw the phone but the sign said calls 25 cents per minute.
Intrigued. He asked the pastor why it was so much cheaper? The pastor said you’re in Texas now.
It’s a local call and all the Texans said, amen. Here we go. Y’all.
This is my bible. I am what it says I am. I have what it says I have.
I can do what it says I can do today. I will be taught the word of God.
I boldly confess, my mind is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be the same in jesus’ name.
God bless you. I want to talk to you today about staying positive towards yourself.
The most important relationship you have is the relationship with yourself. And too many people don’t like who they are.
They focus on their faults and weaknesses. They relive their mistakes and failures. They wish they were different.
If they were taller, had a better personality, look like their cousin instead of accepting themselves a masterpiece made in the image of God.
They’re critical toward themselves and they wonder why they’re not happy, why they don’t have good relationships.
It’s because they don’t like themselves.
If you don’t get along with you, you’re not going to get along with other people.
Jesus said, love your neighbor as you love yourself. You can’t love others. If you don’t first love yourself.
The best thing you can do for your family, for your friends is be good to you.
Be kind to, you, be merciful to you, be forgiving to you. Be loving to you. You’re good to others.
Why aren’t you good to you? You don’t criticize your friend. Why are you criticizing you? You compliment your coworker?
When’s the last time you complimented yourself? You admire their talent. Why don’t you admire your talent?
Start being good to you. That’s not being selfish. That’s not arrogant, that’s loving yourself.
Too many people go through life against themselves. Feeling wrong on the inside.
I heard someone say I discovered the enemy. It was me. Are you your enemy? Are you defeating yourself?
Limiting your dreams, sabotaging your relationships all because you don’t like you, you have enough people and circumstances against you don’t be against yourself when you wake up in the morning.
Don’t lie in bed and think of everything wrong with you.
What you don’t like about your looks, relive your mistakes. Why didn’t I finish college? I should be more disciplined.
I lost my temper yesterday. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with you. Start focusing on what’s right with you.
You may have weaknesses. You’ve made mistakes we all have, but there’s a lot more right with you than there is wrong with you.
Dwelling on the negative doesn’t help you to do better.
Beating yourself up for past mistakes, doesn’t move you forward, the better you feel about yourself, the better you’ll do, the more you like yourself, the further you’ll go, you can’t give away what you don’t have.
If you’re in turmoil on the inside, mad at yourself. Critical condemned, that’s what you have to give.
If you’re hard on yourself, you’ll be hard on others. If you don’t forgive yourself, you won’t forgive others.
If you don’t get along with you, how can you get along with your family?
The best thing you can do is start being for you.
When you love yourself, then you can love others.
When you’re kind to yourself, then you can be kind to others. It starts with you.
Well, Joel, I have all these faults, these weaknesses once I overcome, once I learn to control my temper, be more disciplined.
Quit saying things that I shouldn’t, then I won’t be down on myself.
If you’re waiting to perform perfectly before you feel good about who you are, you’ll be waiting your whole life.
You have to accept yourself while you’re in the process of changing. God knew you would have weaknesses.
He made you, you’re not a surprise to him.
He’s not in heaven, scratching his head thinking I didn’t see that coming. They’re a mess.
What am I going to do? He knew there would be things you struggle with.
You’re not supposed to beat yourself up because you haven’t arrived yet.
I don’t know one person that has arrived there will always be some area we need to improve in.
In fact, I believe God will leave weaknesses on purpose. So we’ll have to depend on Him.
He’s changing you from glory to glory, learn to enjoy the glory that you’re in right now.
You may not be where you want to be, but you’re not where you used to be.
Instead of looking at how far you have to go, you need to look back and thank God for how far he’s already brought you.
It takes a mature person to say I’m OK with where I am while I’m on the way to where God is taking me.
One time. Someone asked me, what was the one thing that I would change about myself if I could?
And I don’t mean this to sound arrogant, but I couldn’t think of anything and sure there are plenty of areas I need to improve.
I need to change. I need to grow.
My point is my weaknesses are not on the forefront of my mind.
I’m not focused on my shortcomings, reliving my failures down on myself for past mistakes. I know I’m forgiven.
I’m redeemed. I’m a masterpiece. I’m made in the image of Almighty God.
Life is too short to go through it against yourself. And I say this with humility. I like myself.
I like my looks. I like my personality. I like my sense of humor. I like my taste.
I like my physique. I like who God made me to be.
It’s very powerful when you can say you like yourself not, I like myself after I lose £20 after I learned to keep my mouth closed.
After I become more patient. God accepts and approves you right where you are faults and all mistakes, shortcomings, not when you overcome, but right now, he knows you’re on a journey.
He’s changing you little by little. He accepts you. Now you have to accept yourself. He approves you.
You have to approve yourself. When our son, Jonathan was 14 years old, we were out playing basketball one day we had played one on one him against me for many years.
I could always beat him but he kept getting better and getting bigger this game for the first time.
He beat me. I played hard. I did my best but he won.
I gave him a high five and told him he was grounded.
But during that game, during that game, he got around me and went up for a shot.
I timed it perfectly. I came from behind, jumped with all my might and blocked his shot.
I mean, I swatted it over into the bushes. I felt like lebron James.
It would have been a top 10 on sportscenter.
Few days later we were in the gym playing with some other guys and Jonathan said, dad, tell everyone what happened last week.
I said, oh yeah, Jonathan went up for the shot. Timed it perfectly. I blocked it.
He said no dad, tell them about how I beat you.
The funny thing is that defeat wasn’t on the front of my mind.
That failure wasn’t taking up the most space. My victory, my accomplishment, my success is what stood out.
It’s all in how we train ourselves.
Some people are focused on their losses, their flaws, their mistakes, the times they didn’t measure up, that’s why they’re negative toward themselves.
The wrong images are always playing. You need to focus on your victories. Focus on the times you succeeded.
You resisted the temptation, you were disciplined. You felt like telling them off but you bit your tongue.
You went the extra mile at work. You excelled in that presentation.
Don’t let the negative take up the most space.
You can’t become who you are created to be if you’re negative towards yourself.
And yes, there are forces trying to stop us.
But I wonder if you are your enemies, circumstances may be against you. People will come against you.
You can overcome those things. The problem is if you are against you, if you’re negative towards yourself, that can keep you from your destiny, God has given us different gifts, different personalities, different temperaments.
Sometimes we’re fighting who we are trying to be like someone else.
You have to accept who God has made you to be sure there are areas we can improve in areas where we can grow.
But there are certain things that are who we are. I’m naturally more quiet and reserved.
My personality is laid back and easy going. I don’t lose my temper. I don’t get upset often.
That’s all natural to me. Well, when my father went to be with the Lord, I knew I was supposed to step up and pastor the church, but I didn’t feel qualified.
I’d never ministered. I didn’t have the training. I could get past those things.
What I struggled with was my father had a strong personality. He was dynamic, forceful.
I would see other ministers that were loud and excite the audience. I thought I don’t have those strengths.
I can’t minister like my father when we compare, think we have to be like someone else.
We can feel short changed like we’re at a disadvantage. I’m not as talented as they are.
Here’s the key God has given you what you need to fulfill your destiny.
If you needed a different personality, he would have given you one.
If you needed different gifts, different strengths, different looks, different parents, it would have happened.
Quit comparing and run your race. I was tempted to feel inferior, not strong enough.
I had to tune all that out and use what God had given me.
I discovered my gifts fit me, my personality, my talent, my strengths, my temperament is right from my assignment.
I didn’t have to be loud. Dynamic, forceful that worked for my father. That’s who He was.
But God makes us individuals. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, comfortable in who God made you to be.
Don’t covet what someone else has. If you had their gifts, their personality, their looks, it wouldn’t help you.
It would hinder you. You are equipped for your race.
You have the right personality, the right gifts, the right looks. You’re the right height.
You come from the right family. You weren’t short changed. You’re not at a disadvantage.
You’ve been fearfully and wonderfully made. Walk in. You’re anointing, be confident with your gifts, let your personality shine.
It’s not another person in this world like you, the enemy would love for you to go through life trying to be an imitation, copying someone else that you think is more attractive, more gifted, more successful.
No, be you. Nobody can do you like you can do you. You’re not anointed to be someone else.
The anointing on your life, the favor, the blessing is to be you. You won’t activate the favor.
You won’t see the abundance. If you’re trying to be something that you’re not feeling wrong on the inside because you’re not like someone else.
I stepped up to minister. I wasn’t like my father, I’m more calm, more laid back.
What I thought was a weakness was actually a strength. People started watching and attending in record numbers.
Half the people watch. They say they’ve never been to church. Never listened to a minister on television.
I wonder if you’re fighting. What makes you unique?
Are you frustrated over what you think is a weakness when, in fact, it’s a strength.
Quit wishing you were something different and step in to who God made you to be.
He didn’t accidentally give you the wrong personality. Make you too quiet, too outgoing, the wrong gifts.
He matched you with your world. You have exactly what you need to fulfill your destiny.
I have a friend that has a very strong personality.
He’s very kind, very talented, but he’s type a straight to the point, aggressive, get it done one day.
He and his wife were having a disagreement, they were debating something.
She finally said, why can’t you be more like Joel?
He said, excuse me, I think I’m supposed to be like Jesus. She said that’s fine.
But why don’t you start with Joel?
We can always grow and improve but you can’t fight who God made you to be.
Don’t go your whole life. Wishing you were something different.
Wishing you had a better personality, wishing you were more talented, wishing you were like your neighbor.
When in fact, you’re exactly who you’re supposed to be.
What you don’t realize is half the time your neighbor is wishing they could be you.
They see all the good things about you. Do you?
What would happen if you would start loving yourself, accepting your gifts, not beating yourself up for mistakes, not down on yourself because of weaknesses, stay positive towards yourself.
Most of us wouldn’t criticize other people.
You wouldn’t go up to that person sitting next to you say you sure don’t look good today.
Those clothes don’t do anything for you. You may think it, but you wouldn’t say it.
Why are you criticizing yourself? When you criticize you, you are criticizing God’s creation.
You might as well look up and say God, you didn’t do a very good job on me.
He doesn’t make mistakes. Don’t say another negative thing about yourself. I’m so undisciplined. I can’t do anything right?
I don’t have a good personality. I’ll never lose this weight, never break the addiction, zip that up.
Quit being against yourself. You don’t need another enemy. Be as good to yourself as you are to others.
Be kind to yourself, be merciful to yourself. Be loving to yourself when you wake up in the morning.
Look in that mirror instead of saying, oh man, I’m getting so old. Look at all these wrinkles.
It’s all downhill from here. Try a different approach. Good morning. You good looking thing.
I’m made in the image of God. I’m a masterpiece. I have royal blood flowing through my veins.
Friend of mine pastors a church in another state and for years, every Sunday after service, he would call me and tell me how good my message was.
He’s very encouraging. He would go on and on. It was so effective here.
And this part is going to help so many people. One compliment.
After another, several years later, he came with me to this interview.
I was doing, it was a national program live for an hour. Really big deal.
I was young and nervous and hadn’t done much of that before. When I finished, we got in the car.
And the first thing I said was I did really good. I knew exactly what to say.
I don’t think I could have done it any better. He told me later that conversation changed his life.
When he saw how positive I was toward myself. He realized what his problem was.
He had never once told himself that he had done good after his service.
He’d always drive home, discouraged thinking about how he could have done it better, how he wasn’t focused enough, how he could have explained it more clearly in years of pastoring.
He never left the church feeling good.
He always thought about what he didn’t do right when he heard me come out and say I did good.
A stronghold was broken in his thinking. He was great at complimenting others, but he never complimented himself.
He trained himself to see the flaws, the stumbles, what he didn’t do his best.
The scripture says, our faith is made effective.
When we acknowledge everything good, you can’t go around acknowledging the negative, your weaknesses.
The times you didn’t measure up how you should have been more disciplined your faith is not going to be effective.
You need to retrain your mind to see the good focus on what you did, right?
You didn’t get everything done at the office but you got something done.
You haven’t totally broke the addiction, but you’re better than you were last year.
You didn’t spend all the time you wanted to with your Children, but you got them ready for school, you got them dressed, you cooked their dinner.
If you’re acknowledging the negative, you’re not gonna feel good about yourself.
Start acknowledging all the good things that you’re doing.
That’s what’s going to help you do better being down on yourself.
Not only keeps you from enjoying life, but it keeps you from rising higher.
When I walk off this platform, every time under my breath, I say, Lord thank you for helping me to do great today.
I know I don’t do great every time, but in my mind, I do great.
I walked off the other day and my Children were back there.
First thing I said was I nailed it. They started laughing. I don’t mean this arrogant, but I celebrate myself.
I compliment myself. I acknowledge what God has enabled me to do.
I recognize it’s his favor, his anointing his blessing on my life.
I have plenty of areas to improve in. I know people that can do it much better. That’s ok.
I’m not running their race. I feel good about me.
You have enough enemies in life don’t be against yourself. You should be your biggest fan.
Nobody should think better of you than you, but sometimes we’re taught. No, no, no.
Don’t think good of yourself. Be humble, lowly. No, you have to recognize the creator of the universe.
Breathed life into you. He’s entrusted you with gifts, talents, abilities. He’s crowned you with favor.
Don’t go through life thinking little of yourself focused on your weaknesses, dwelling on your failures.
Start acknowledging the good step into your potential. Show off that talent. Don’t be your enemy. Be your asset.
When you acknowledge the good, when you say Lord, thank you for helping me to shine.
Thank you for your gifts. Thank you for taking me where I’ve never dreamed. Then your faith is made effective.
You’re going to see new doors open and new opportunities.
You may be good at complimenting others, but you need to get good at complimenting yourself.
You don’t have to do it out loud. But in your mind, you need to say that was good.
Got to work on time. That was good. I did excellent on that presentation. That was good.
Help my neighbor last night. That was good. Why don’t you start giving yourself the credit that you give others?
You told that friend they look good. Have you told yourself that you look good? You complimented your coworker.
Have you complimented yourself? Well, Joel, I would feel good about myself, but I made these mistakes.
If I had been more disciplined, the mistake didn’t change your purpose.
Don’t let failures and times you got off course, cause you to be against yourself, be as merciful to you as you are to others.
You have to learn to forgive yourself. The accuser will bring condemnation guilt. You don’t deserve it.
He would love for you to feel not worthy down on yourself. Don’t fall into that trap.
Paul said in Colossians, God sees you as holy, blameless as without fault, not me, Joel.
I have a lot of faults. I’ve made a lot of mistakes we all have.
But when you ask God to forgive you, he cleared your record.
He sees you without fault and that’s all good.
But the real question is, can you see yourself without fault as long as you’re beating yourself up, living, condemned?
The problem is you are your enemy. God has already said you’re blameless. You’re without fault.
Get in agreement with him. Nothing you’ve done has stopped your destiny.
Jesus knew that Peter would deny him yet. He still chose him as his disciple.
Why didn’t he just pick someone else? He knew he was going to fail. He knew he was hot tempered.
He knew he used bad language, but God doesn’t disqualify you because you have weaknesses.
If he did, none of us would have a chance. When Jesus rose from the dead.
He told Mary at the tomb, go tell the disciples that he was alive and he specifically said, tell Peter, Peter could have lived defeated, condemned what was wrong with me.
But he made this choice that we all have to make. He forgave himself. He had mercy on himself.
He didn’t live looking in the rearview mirror thinking about how he had blown it.
Peter went on to give the inaugural address when the church was birthed.
3000 people came to know the Lord all through the scripture. God used people that made mistakes.
Abraham had a baby out of wedlock.
David took a man’s wife and had the man killed Jonah ran from God wouldn’t go to the city of Nineveh.
What did God do? Rescue him and send him to the city of Nineveh. God doesn’t disqualify us.
The mistake we make is we disqualify ourselves.
When Moses was on Mount Sinai receiving the 10 commandments, he left his brother Aaron in charge of the Israelites.
He was gone so long. The people said we need a God to worship. Well, Aaron knew they worshiped Jehovah.
He spoke for Moses. When he told Pharaoh to let the people go.
He had seen God delivered them from slavery part the red Sea.
But he told the people to bring their gold, he melted it down and they made a golden calf.
The people started partying all kinds of revelry.
When Moses came down the mountain, he saw Aaron and all the people dancing naked, worshiping that idol here He’s up there having this holy moment and in a few days, the people have already fallen away.
You would think God would be done with Aaron.
If you can’t lead my people for a couple of weeks, if you’re going to compromise that easily, give into temptation, then good riddance.
But God doesn’t write us off. He chose Aaron to be the first high priest.
I can hear God saying to an angel.
You see that guy down there that’s dancing naked, the one that made the golden calf.
He’s going to be the one I choose to go into the holy of Holies.
The most sacred place of the temple.
Don’t judge your life based off of one mistake off of one season where you gave into temptation one season where you compromised, that didn’t stop your destiny.
The only way it will hold you back is if you live guilty, condemned feeling washed up, God has forgiven you, but you have to forgive yourself.
He’s given you his mercy, but you have to have mercy on yourself with you.
You don’t know what I did. You probably weren’t dancing naked in public last week.
You probably weren’t worshiping a golden calf. Why are you writing yourself off?
You don’t know where God is taking you.
Who would have thought Aaron would become the high priest in a position of honor and influence.
God has something still awesome in your future.
Here’s the question are you for you are you kind to yourself? Are you merciful to yourself?
I know you love God. But do you love yourself? I know you’ll forgive others. Will you forgive yourself?
I know you’ll compliment your friends. But will you compliment yourself?
How much further will you go if you’ll stay positive towards yourself? Quit beating yourself up for past mistakes.
Quit dwelling on your flaws, overanalyzing your weaknesses. You are not a finish product.
God is still working on you, I believe and declare today is a breakthrough day. Strongholds are coming down.
Guilt is leaving poor self. Images are going. You are holy, you are blameless. You are without fault.
Now get ready. You’re about to rise higher, overcome obstacles, accomplish dreams and become everything God created you to be in jesus’ name.
If you receive it, can you say amen today?
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