How to Stop Idolizing Relationships | The Kirk Cameron

Finding True Love: When God is First in Your Heart

Do you find yourself longing for that perfect person—the one who seems like they will meet every need of your heart, body, and soul? Perhaps you’ve prayed for a soulmate who completes you, someone who will never disappoint, never misunderstand, and finally make you feel whole. Maybe, deep down, you’ve been hoping for an “eHarmony Jesus”—a divine matchmaker delivering your ideal human love story.

But here’s a truth worth hearing: the love you’re craving may never be fully found in a person. The deepest relationship your heart truly needs is with the one who created it. God designed us for relationships—first with Him, then with others. And until God’s love rules our hearts, no human connection can ever satisfy us fully.

When God is not first, we try to take His place. We act like demanding kings on thrones we were never meant to occupy, expecting others to provide identity, security, and purpose. But even the best partner, friend, or spouse will fail us at some point. Only God can truly fill the longing of our hearts.

Jesus made this simple: love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and love others as yourself. When God takes His rightful place, our relationships transform. We stop demanding from others what only He can give, and we begin to love freely, not out of desperation, but out of fullness.

God’s grace rewires our hearts. It frees us from idolizing human love, from seeking validation from others, and grounds us in the truth that we are fully known and fully loved. When this truth anchors us, we can love others as gifts, not idols, and our relationships are no longer defined by our unmet needs or expectations.

So, ask yourself: are you seeking the “eHarmony Jesus” or the real Jesus who writes your love story with Himself at the center? One promises temporary satisfaction and eventual heartbreak. The other brings eternal transformation, starting in your own heart. When God’s love fills the deepest parts of you, you don’t just wait for the right person—you finally learn to love.